what life should be
Anna Quindlen’s Commencement Address at Villanova
The following is from Pulitzer Prize winning author Anna Quindlen’s commencement address to Villanova University, Friday 23 June 2000:
the only girl band i ever loved
sang better than the spice girls. danced better than the spice girls. sweeter than the nice girls.
but alas, they didn’t last beyond their first album.
i was there when they came to singapore. sat there for hours waiting for their arrival. haha! boy, fun times, fun times!
i was always trying to learn their dance steps!
sexy sexy music number 2
mariah carey featuring bone thugs or bone thugs featuring mariah carey.
either way, it’s my favourite mariah carey song. loves it.
so sensual sensual….
sexy sexy music number 1
i love class 95 because it reminds me of all the songs i’ve forgotten!
so sexy sexy…
everywhere you go, there you are.
“Everywhere you go, there you are” means to me that change must ultimately come from within. I used to think that if I changed my outer world––moved, got a new job, a new relationship (especially!)––something fundamental would change as well.
Mostly, I ended up reading from the same script, but just on a different stage in a different theater. No real fundamental change had occurred just because I changed my outer world. It did not automatically create
any significant change in my inner world. Indeed, it was amazing how quickly I would re-establish old patterns, re-energize old habits in my new environment. Essentially I was decorating my new abode with the furniture from my previous one.Eventually, tired of not creating the change that my conscious mind said I wanted, I spent a lot of time thinking and feeling it through. Before long I had a blinding flash of the obvious: Everywhere I went, there I was. The same old me. In new clothes perhaps, new surroundings, but still me, re-enacting the same behaviors, thinking and acting the same way that had created my circumstances in my old surroundings. People being pretty much the same the world over, others were reacting the same way to me and the same old, same old dynamics were occurring over and over. Everywhere I went, there I was.
The problem wasn’t other people, it was me. If I wanted change, I needed to change (“Become the Change You Seek…”). And even if the existence of the problem wasn’t entirely my “fault,” even if I had not created it, if I was the one who wanted change, then certainly the fastest way to get what I wanted was to accept responsibility for creating it.
If I wanted to create real, lasting, meaningful change in my outer world, I needed to start with my inner world. Once I did that, once I started thinking, acting, and being different, once I started seeing others and myself in a different light, I was amazed how much change seemed to happen automatically. Things that before seemed to take so much effort, frequently appeared to come about on their own.
Yes, different circumstances and surroundings can create the space and opportunity for change by removing many of the old cues and support for behaviors you wish to change. New people in your life, with no expectations
of you based upon your past, can create a honeymoon period for you to try out the embryonic changes you are creating. However, these change opportunities can be squandered more quickly than you might realize and are
far from self-determining.Because for better or worse (as always, your choice): Everywhere You Go, There You Are.
what am i good at?
if i need help with IT related stuff, there is syaiful, hock heng & yh.
if i need help with tax, there is nikko.
if i need help with accounts/audit, there is sk.
if i need help wth common practices/audit/biz mgmt/people issues, there’s james, darren and my ex boss.
if i need help with handicraft, girly and domestic issues, there is jenice.
if i need an opinion on current affairs and world politics, there is james.
if i need help in english/marketing, there is michelle and celia.
if i need help in guitar/bike knowledge, there is kenneth.
if i need help with insurance, there is hwee bing.
but i find no reason for people to come to me.
i am seriously not particularly good with anything.
sheets for your tits
i was at guardian today and i saw boxeses of sheet masks for your breasts.
wow.
like, seriously.
my 1st guitar lesson
it didn’t happen.
kenneth was down with fever.
get well soon, my friend!
lately.
pointless. meaningless. empty. weightless.
how i feel of life, lately.
get a grip. get a grip.
why do i feel like this every once in a while?
office ktv
both of us have been feeling increasingly frustrated at work and we decided to let off some steam by singing our hearts off in our enclosed office.
i think we sang and worked for about an hour and gosh we felt so much better after that!
no wonder they say silence is golden
i should learn to control my emotions and keep my mouth shut.
sorry if i caused any discomfort, yet again. 
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